Well-being is affected by our own perception, needs, wants and levels of desire and inner confidence. To maintain good well-being and feelings of optimism with resilience, it is essential to take action and be at ease.
In your heart right now, you know, you just know if there are any vital matters that you are simply not dealing with. An issue that’s causing you concern but is not being addressed. Perhaps a major lost opportunity?
You are alerted to these. Your unconscious mind gifts you with these thoughts. You may ignore them, day after day, but the issues remain. For example, unpaid bills, tormenting colleague at work, responsibility which makes you nervous, a nagging self-doubt, a loveless marriage, low mood, or even a nagging sense that something is wrong with your health.
Quickly or slowly, a something or a nothing like these, will singe your life and if not dealt with, can even burn your life to the ground. Causing burnout and depletion.
The differences between urgent and important
If something is urgent, such as your boiler breaking down, a lump in an armpit, most people will address it right away, but what if it’s important but not urgent? Is it a something? Or could it be a nothing? An issue or a goal, which you can always put off dealing with for just one more day?
It’s easy to convince yourself that these issues are a “nothing.”
But in my experience, these are the things that usually end up costing you the most. An irrecoverable personal cost!
You always know these issues are there, they cast a shadow in your gut and eventually the consequences always play out. To prevent a sense of regret, having the feeling of ‘in hindsight… I wish…” – doing what you can and working at making your life better is the right thing to do to protect your well-being.
Making yourself Matter. How can you do this?
Consider your health, finances, relationships, personal wellbeing, faith, spirituality (if applicable) and identify the area of concern. Think about how you can release it?
Ask yourself “what gets in the way of me addressing the important but maybe not urgent matters?
What do I manage each day but never solve?
What do I keep postponing altogether?
What’s not actually getting better, no matter how much I hope it will?”
Write down the important names of the things you know are a “something” and that you need to address. Tell a trusted person about this, make it important, make it real for yourself, tell yourself that this issue matters.
Face it head on. Keep facing it!
Bring to mind the many benefits that will come to you and maybe those around you, if you tackled this issue. Make the benefits vivid in your mind. See how your day improves, feels better, looks better. Listen to your hearts’ longing to have these benefits. Feel these benefits, sense them, hear them, feel them, think about them.
Bring to mind the risks, the short and long term costs to you and others, if you continue to perceive these as “nothings?”
Be honest with yourself. Willing to feel remorse, shame or guilt in order to really address these issues at all costs. Feeling the benefits and feeling the costs – make a choice.
Are you still going to perceive these issues as a “nothing” or are you going to see them for what they really are?
Are you going to wait another day? Whilst you drift along, as the days turn into weeks and months?
When you choose to confront these issues, be open to feeling good and positive about them and address the issues.
You don’t need to know all the details, what you are going to do and how you may go about getting started – just know the first step or two. Just bringing the issue to the surface, talking about it with a friend or partner, gathering information, for instance, reading up about the health concern. Buddying up with someone to exercise with, someone to go out to have coffee with, or join a club with.
Just start by making a commitment that you will take action.
When you have accepted that you deserve to live the very best life possible, the life that you deserve, move forward with taking action.
Coaching can absolutely help you move forward. I have assisted many, many individuals who have been accepting less than they deserve, until they made a commitment to live their best lives.
